"In a talk titled, "Differences Inherent Between Men and Women", I really liked what Elder Bateman said about seeing men and women as the glorious individuals they really are. Growing up I always had this negative view of a man solely because of those men in my life growing up who weren't the best examples. After becoming familiar with the Gospel and having a better understanding of our purpose here on Earth, my view of men has changed. Sure there are men that aren't necessarily the best, but it is so important to encourage them daily to be the best they can be so that one day when they have families and wives-- they can assume the roles of husband and father they were born to take. By helping them be righteous, we create the type of men we want in our lives as well as the type of men they were born to be. This goes both ways-- for men and women."
This is an excerpt from an assignment I had to do in my family foundations class about a reading on gender roles.I seriously just loved it because it's totally true, we should all encourage each other to become the people capable of assuming the divine roles of spouses and parents. Growing up, I always was a "Yeah women's rights! Equality!" type of person and believed that we were all equal and especially as parents should assume shared responsibility in taking care if the family and home. I hated whenever someone said, "Go to the kitchen, you belong there!". Now that I think of it, these stereotypes are true to some extent. Women are supposed to be those that take care of the home and their children because that's their main duty. The thing is that some people overlook that part of the Proclamation where it says that both man and wife need to SHARE these responsibilities and be equal.
In one of the preparation videos that we were supposed to watch, someone said that instead of focusing in making women and men equal, we should instead focus on offering OPPORTUNITIES instead of trying to force everyone to be equal.
It's true!
To conclude, I just think it all comes down to agency and your own personal beliefs on the matter of gender. For me, I center all my personal beliefs around the Gospel. For me the Gospel offers answers to question like this one concerning roles, same gender attraction, and gender.
Saturday, May 25, 2013
Friday, May 17, 2013
Culture and Immigration
Thursday's class was like WHOA. We did a role play of the typical family that immigrated to the United States and what difficulties they all went through. Throughout the entire class I was like "dude, this is my life". Why? Well, my family went through the same situation to get to the point that they are today as well as to the point where my siblings and I are as well. I couldn't write my entire story, but nah. It would be too long to tell you all how horrible the whole experience was for me-- especially during those years when I was left in Ecuador with my brother and taken care of our grandparents while both of my parents worked in the States.
What I can tell you though, I also shared in class on Thursday. My relief in a way, that I was fortunate enough to come to the US at the age I did. Being young and coming to this country, it wasn't difficult adapting to this new way of life. I picked up the language within a year and settled into this new country that now I truly consider my home. I'm glad I wasn't like that teenager in the role-play.
Then I got to thinking about how much this new culture that my family came into changed our family. Especially for my dad. He let himself allow this new culture and traditions "swallow" him up and cause him to abandon the very little traditions and culture that he brought from Ecuador. He became so engulfed in becoming a "gringo", that he became ashamed of his own roots. Like I mentioned earlier-- my entire story is so long that I think I might even write a book about my life someday. Maybe even loo into having it made in a soap opera or movie-- but let's not get too far ahead of ourselves. I went home that afternoon and shared this experience with my mom. She was blown away! I expressed to her the gratitude I had of her sacrifice as well as my dad's to come to this country and eventually bringing us here.
I see now what the Lord means when he says that he gives us our trials to help us grow. From all the trials that immigrating to this country has brought - I have really learned to learn from each of them and to apply them in my own education by sharing my experiences and seeing how a majority of them correlate with all that I'm learning throughout my college career.
I can honestly say that I'm blessed for having had these trials because of all the knowledge they have brought me.
What I can tell you though, I also shared in class on Thursday. My relief in a way, that I was fortunate enough to come to the US at the age I did. Being young and coming to this country, it wasn't difficult adapting to this new way of life. I picked up the language within a year and settled into this new country that now I truly consider my home. I'm glad I wasn't like that teenager in the role-play.
Then I got to thinking about how much this new culture that my family came into changed our family. Especially for my dad. He let himself allow this new culture and traditions "swallow" him up and cause him to abandon the very little traditions and culture that he brought from Ecuador. He became so engulfed in becoming a "gringo", that he became ashamed of his own roots. Like I mentioned earlier-- my entire story is so long that I think I might even write a book about my life someday. Maybe even loo into having it made in a soap opera or movie-- but let's not get too far ahead of ourselves. I went home that afternoon and shared this experience with my mom. She was blown away! I expressed to her the gratitude I had of her sacrifice as well as my dad's to come to this country and eventually bringing us here.
I see now what the Lord means when he says that he gives us our trials to help us grow. From all the trials that immigrating to this country has brought - I have really learned to learn from each of them and to apply them in my own education by sharing my experiences and seeing how a majority of them correlate with all that I'm learning throughout my college career.
I can honestly say that I'm blessed for having had these trials because of all the knowledge they have brought me.
Oooops
Totally forgot to write a post on last week's class, sorry!
Last week we talked about the family systems theory and what genograms can tell us about our family relationships and patterns we can find from them. Following the preparation assignments that Bro. Williams put up for us to do, among them was to start thinking about what types of relationships we have with our family members. Mine was fairly easy because of the distance that me and my siblings have from my dad-- a solid brick wall of communication. For the relationships with my siblings and my mom our levels of communication and our overall relationship is content and open-- a dashed line.
Then I made a very interesting observation while attempting to draw my entire family genogram; something that I kinda knew all along in my heart, but kinda refused to believe. I figured out that entirely on my dad's side of the family are full of divorce, infidelity, children out of wedlock, even crime in some cases. Talk about a modern day Sodom and Gomorrah in my own family- but then again who am I to judge, right? Then on my mom's side are marriages that have lasted until death and basically the opposite of the other side. It makes me wonder if both of their social classes affected the way that they both turned out and eventually raised both of my parents?
Of course, looking back at the things that both family sides have gone through, I can certainly learn from them. Especially not to do most of the things that they did that resulted in families being separated and children growing up as emotional messes and following in their parent's footsteps; like some of my scandalous cousins. Again, I'm no one to judge them. They are my family after all and for some reason the Lord put them in my life-- to learn from their mistakes so that I raise my own family in a much better privileged way.
Seriously though, I cannot express the words of gratitude I have for this class. I'm learning so much about not only myself, but my own family.
Last week we talked about the family systems theory and what genograms can tell us about our family relationships and patterns we can find from them. Following the preparation assignments that Bro. Williams put up for us to do, among them was to start thinking about what types of relationships we have with our family members. Mine was fairly easy because of the distance that me and my siblings have from my dad-- a solid brick wall of communication. For the relationships with my siblings and my mom our levels of communication and our overall relationship is content and open-- a dashed line.
Then I made a very interesting observation while attempting to draw my entire family genogram; something that I kinda knew all along in my heart, but kinda refused to believe. I figured out that entirely on my dad's side of the family are full of divorce, infidelity, children out of wedlock, even crime in some cases. Talk about a modern day Sodom and Gomorrah in my own family- but then again who am I to judge, right? Then on my mom's side are marriages that have lasted until death and basically the opposite of the other side. It makes me wonder if both of their social classes affected the way that they both turned out and eventually raised both of my parents?
Of course, looking back at the things that both family sides have gone through, I can certainly learn from them. Especially not to do most of the things that they did that resulted in families being separated and children growing up as emotional messes and following in their parent's footsteps; like some of my scandalous cousins. Again, I'm no one to judge them. They are my family after all and for some reason the Lord put them in my life-- to learn from their mistakes so that I raise my own family in a much better privileged way.
Seriously though, I cannot express the words of gratitude I have for this class. I'm learning so much about not only myself, but my own family.
Friday, May 3, 2013
The New Economic Reality Documentary
When I saw that we were required to watch this documentary for our preparation for class on Thursday I was like "WOO-HOO!" I love watching documentaries, it's actually one of my favorite things to do, especially if it has to do with a topic of my personal interest. Of course, this documentary fit in that category because I love learning about families and anything pertaining to them.
Something that really caused me a great impression was the fact that some countries actually PAY couples to have children. Wow, dumb. If the government is paying their people to have kids, it's a bad move because children would be born for the wrong reasons. I honestly think that children should be brought into the world to parents that want them more than anything else in the world. These poor kids that are being born into families that are doing it for the money-- I seriously think that they are at a greater risk for abuse. Once the couple gets their sum for having the child, then what? If the couple was actually doing it for the concept to have a child and have the money to help raise it because they were unable and not for selfish reasons, then of course the child wouldn't be at risk for abuse. Whereas on the other hand if the couple only wanted the money and gave birth to the child for personal gain, well, I feel really sorry for that child.
I think that before deciding to start having children, you should really think about it, of course with your spouse too. Are you capable of giving your child the love and attention they need? If a couple were to have a child for the money, I doubt that a majority of them did not ponder this question therefore putting the child in an environment where they aren't treated with the love they need and only treated as "the kid that got us the new car, house, etc." and not as the product of the love that the wife and husband have for each other. It's really sad because that's what a child should be seen and treated as- the product of two people who love each other and are willing to go under all sacrifice necessary to have the product of that pure love they both have for each other in their lives.
Imagine this conversation for example:
Kid: Mommy, why did you and daddy decide to have me?
Mom: For a new Lexus.
How awkward would that be? Imagine how the poor child would feel?
Overall, this documentary was really quite...sad. It was sad because it came to show just how much the family is being disintegrated throughout the world.
In the Proclamation it states that the disintegration of the family would bring great calamities. When President Gordon B. Hinckley was prophet, during a conference session, he talked about how the adversary is working so hard to destroy families in these latter- days because the family is one of the greatest gifts that the Lord is able to give us. The family is so sacred and so important for us being able to achieve eternal life. With the disintegration of it through the rise of cohabitation, fertility rates dropping, and all these different trends-- we are letting Satan win this battle. The calamities that were predicted by the proclamation are actually coming to pass because of this disintegration. We see on the news daily about tragedies (like the recent Boston bombing) and rumors of war (North Korea, I'm talking to you). Why are we letting this happen? Seriously, stop.
I pray each day that the Lord helps me prepare to have and maintain a family that will be so strong and tied together with the love and faith that we have for each other and Christ so that the adversary can't touch us and break us apart. My own family now has been severely affected by worldly things that it has disintegrated dramatically. There is no way that I will ever let this occur to my future family, ever.
Something that really caused me a great impression was the fact that some countries actually PAY couples to have children. Wow, dumb. If the government is paying their people to have kids, it's a bad move because children would be born for the wrong reasons. I honestly think that children should be brought into the world to parents that want them more than anything else in the world. These poor kids that are being born into families that are doing it for the money-- I seriously think that they are at a greater risk for abuse. Once the couple gets their sum for having the child, then what? If the couple was actually doing it for the concept to have a child and have the money to help raise it because they were unable and not for selfish reasons, then of course the child wouldn't be at risk for abuse. Whereas on the other hand if the couple only wanted the money and gave birth to the child for personal gain, well, I feel really sorry for that child.
I think that before deciding to start having children, you should really think about it, of course with your spouse too. Are you capable of giving your child the love and attention they need? If a couple were to have a child for the money, I doubt that a majority of them did not ponder this question therefore putting the child in an environment where they aren't treated with the love they need and only treated as "the kid that got us the new car, house, etc." and not as the product of the love that the wife and husband have for each other. It's really sad because that's what a child should be seen and treated as- the product of two people who love each other and are willing to go under all sacrifice necessary to have the product of that pure love they both have for each other in their lives.
Imagine this conversation for example:
Kid: Mommy, why did you and daddy decide to have me?
Mom: For a new Lexus.
How awkward would that be? Imagine how the poor child would feel?
Overall, this documentary was really quite...sad. It was sad because it came to show just how much the family is being disintegrated throughout the world.
In the Proclamation it states that the disintegration of the family would bring great calamities. When President Gordon B. Hinckley was prophet, during a conference session, he talked about how the adversary is working so hard to destroy families in these latter- days because the family is one of the greatest gifts that the Lord is able to give us. The family is so sacred and so important for us being able to achieve eternal life. With the disintegration of it through the rise of cohabitation, fertility rates dropping, and all these different trends-- we are letting Satan win this battle. The calamities that were predicted by the proclamation are actually coming to pass because of this disintegration. We see on the news daily about tragedies (like the recent Boston bombing) and rumors of war (North Korea, I'm talking to you). Why are we letting this happen? Seriously, stop.
I pray each day that the Lord helps me prepare to have and maintain a family that will be so strong and tied together with the love and faith that we have for each other and Christ so that the adversary can't touch us and break us apart. My own family now has been severely affected by worldly things that it has disintegrated dramatically. There is no way that I will ever let this occur to my future family, ever.
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